November 17, 2012
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resting on laurels
Today I am doing that: resting on my laurels. In the only way that I can. Which involves very little resting and very little plant life.
First event of the morning (aside from a glorious family sleep in- it was almost 9am before anyone in the fam moved) was LLO’s unloading of 6 weeks of pent up emotion. Wow. That girl has some stuff. Also, I see that I have taught her very well how to freak out about the holidays, because she is desperate to go shopping. She has so many presents to buy and the world will end if she doesn’t get them today. I suppose it’s like Hagrid says “better out than in.” Especially since Spawn told me the other day that she was miserable in middle school.
Other major coups: LLO spontaneously decided to take her dirty laundry out of her room and made noises that tell me she’s actually thinking about putting clean laundry away. Spawn admits that she has homework this weekend. It’s only Saturday morning, this usually doesn’t come up until Sunday late afternoon.
I’m upset. On the one hand, I worked my butt off and I deserve to graduate. But on the other hand, I do not know that my advisor read the final version of my paper before he approved it. This bugs me. I know he read the rough drafts because he had plenty to say about them. Final. Nuttin. And I’ve written a heck of a lot of papers in these past 2-3 years and these profs just don’t say squat. They promise comments and the only thing they deliver is an overall grade for the class. I think you have an obligation that if you make someone write something, you ought to read it and say something. Anyhow. Back to the final. Did he approve it because I submitted to the process or did he approve it because it was worthy? Should it matter to me?
Is this the problem with my whole life? That I care what someone else thinks? That when I take measure it’s with someone else’s yardstick? I need a new yardstick.
On that note, I’m going to go clean out my fridge which is disgusting.
Then we’re going to watch LOTR in the middle of the day (gasp).
Comments (36)
hahahahahahah…sorry, I shouldn’t laugh, but wow. Um yeah, you shouldn’t care. I mean, that’s kinda the whole problem, isn’t it??? Even when you get what you want (and I really mean me) you’re still not sure why you got it and whether you deserve it and what people think about it. HA!
But seriously, enjoy LOTR. Enjoy being graduated. No worries. Email your paper to me. I’ll make comments.
Looks like Saturday is going out well for you. Hope you enjoy LOTR!
My heart goes out to Spawn – middle school is without a doubt hideous for nearly everyone. Even the kids that seem fine with it are secretly miserable – they are just better at hiding it! Sounds like the holiday spirit has grabbed everyone… even if it is by proxy. Although Hagrid is one of my favorite characters, I do believe the quote belongs to another big ugly guy -Shreck.
I am going to submit some art to a show and then I will try to find a quiet spot to be out of the way of the football fans… Kick off is at 3:30 so I won’t get to watch any TV unless I watch the game. And if superstitions are running high (and they are) I will be banned from coming into the room unless I am carrying a plate of home made cookies. I guess I will either have to start baking or clear out!
@murisopsis - shoot. you’re right. it was shrek.
we have a football game too. i think we just did the kick off. whoopdedoo.
I don’t want to care what people think but on certain subjects I do. Even I despise the people in question. How about a meter stick, maybe the metric system will work better for you? I think I bought something last weekend that I may or may not give as a gift. But yeah Christmas shopping, I need to get in that. Ick.
@leaflesstree - maybe no stick at all?
@promisesunshine – tape measure? String?
@ordinarybutloud - can’t email that paper to anyone else whose opinion i value.
You passed! So, next?
My wife is like. She wants a response. I am poor that way.
@ANVRSADDAY - 2 itty bitty papers, 1 presentation, lead a discussion and then i am done with higher education for freaking ever. i’ll get a piece of paper mailed to me and absolutely nothing will have changed except that i am older, tireder and poorer.
not to be all mopey or anything.
@ANVRSADDAY - i suppose this is why i like xanga so much. no matter what i say, someone will be kind enough to say something. just so i know i’m not talking to myself in one little part of my life.
The good days are worth celebrating.
Cleaning out the fridge you say? Hmmmm, that reminds me….
Graduating is no small feat. Most students just write the papers and could care less what the professor thinks as long as they pass. I’d say the professors forget that some of the students actually care. When you get that paper in the mail, maybe nothing tangible will change, but you will no longer be the same. What is LOTR?
@crazyforfsh48 - lord of the rings. i suppose i’m already not the same.
@armnatmom - and now the fam is giving me grief about how clean the fridge is. like i’m the only one with the training to clean it.
@PrisonerxOfxLove - maybe i’ll feel like celebrating when the semester is done.
xanga is pretty cool, for that whole ‘you’re ok, i’m ok’ thing
and your tribe here has said all the right things already (i think). but. are you good? LOTR was good, as always? isn’t anything with Viggio, good? 
oxoo
Fine if you have plenty of laurels.
thanks for reminding me I need to clean out my fridges. I’m getting a new one so I can finally get rid of the one I have that might be one and a half times older than me.
Oh joy. Thanks for reminding me another chore to do before Thanksgiving. Clean it out only to fill it up again with leftovers from the dinner. All I want for dinner is a foot long turkey sub from Subway and sleep in. Not in the cards…
@Bels_Kaylar - i’m ok. a little tired of requiring reassurance, though. thoroughly entertained today. viggo all afternoon and live theater this evening.
@Inciteful - my laurels are squished
@godfatherofgreenbay - yours cannot be as disgusting as mine was.
@Zoz36 - subway? really?
@promisesunshine - Well, the Quiznos closed up and Penn Station Subs close early. It’s either that or get a sub from Speedway. Those are my choices.
Perhaps the Tao was for you this morning.
@songoftheheart - i don’t know.
Damn. Doesn’t the prof know how this whole blogging, I mean paper writing thing goes? Feedback, man. We need feedback!
I’m sorry and/or happy about the divergence of your weekend form the norm. You get to choose.
LOTR. And you didn’t invite me?!? I would’ve driven. Mountains, Gandalf. Mountains!
Sending good vibes in hopes that you graduate.
@Tenayah - good grief. can you say “Inappropriate”.
@distractedbyzombies - we only watched the first one. i’ll invite you for #2.
@Grannys_Place - thank you
@Bels_Kaylar - blocked and deleted. i usually catch them faster.
@promisesunshine - oxo wierd. the bot thing, i mean.
Did he approve it because I submitted to the process or did he approve it because it was worthy?
Of course I can’t answer this because only he knows, I suppose you could ask him. Do you want to know that badly or would that be stirring a hornets nest?
Should it matter to me? I can give you my opinion, but basically only you can answer this question. I imagine if you did a survey of graduate students about half would say, “I’m just glad it is over” and the other half would feel somewhat duped that they didn’t get more feedback.
Is this the problem with my whole life? (Come into my office, sit down and let’s talk.” Seriously, this may be causing your life to be somewhat out of balance but you are not alone. Many wonder about this. That I care what someone else thinks? That when I take measure it’s with someone else’s yardstick? I need a new yardstick. If you truly want to start measuring things by your own standards go for it. It is not easy if one has had that view for a long time but I believe people can change, at least regarding this issue.
On that note, I’m going to go clean out my fridge which is disgusting.
Isn’t Spawn now out of middle school? You post made it sound like she was still in middle school. I hope you don’t mind my super long comment. I just wanted you to know that I heard what you said. Enjoy your day.
@vexations - you’re right, spawn is in high school. she was talking to LLO about middle school. i believe people can change too. but dang. it’s hard to stay changed.
Oh, you want to stay “changed.” Yes, very difficult. @promisesunshine -
I need to clean my fridge out. Must do that!
You should post photographs of the stuff you find in the back of the fridge!
@Aloysius_son - you did not want a photograph. trust me. it was deeesgusting.
@promisesunshine - :)