October 18, 2012
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doormat
I am a doormat. At this moment I am a colossally pissed off doormat. And this current issue, in the scheme of all potential, existing and imaginary issues in my life, shouldn’t matter. I’m ticking down the minutes where I have to give a crap about that freaking women’s club.
This overgrown cheerleader is going to be president next year and truly I feel sorry for the Board because… well, because I do. A few weeks ago, she offered to help me by proofreading the directory that is my big (pita) job for the club (aside from screwing up nametags for the big fall soiree). It is her duty as pres-elect to make the cover. I reminded her several times and did everything but hold her hand to get her to do this cover. I did my part, sent to printer and waited for the proof to be ready. Finally called them last Saturday and they were waiting on the cover. Which was annoying. I emailed her again to remind her about the cover and to make the glorious suggestion that I just do the damn thing for her and to see when she could proofread for me. Well, she doesn’t answer email on weekends. So I get a message Sunday night to phone her Monday morning. Why do I need to phone you? Just answer my dang questions. I emailed back repeating my questions and reminding her that I work for a living and that I was very busy on Monday. She sent me another email informing me when I could phone her at her convenience. Thank you so much. Well, the phone call at her convenience, was essentially you can make the cover for me and you can drop the proof off at my house. Gosh, thanks. She had the proof for 2 days. 2 days!!! I called her last night and she said I could pick it up this morning. Gosh, thanks. I picked it up and her note says “without the originals with corrections, I couldn’t proof.” I’m sorry. Did you actually want me to hang my computer on your door? What originals? There are no originals. Two days. To tell me she couldn’t do it. And she OFFERED to do it. I could have had someone with a brain do this 4 days ago and this job could be off my plate. My very full plate. Also, she didn’t say a word about the cover. No thank you, no good job, no nothing. What a freaking prima dona.
I hope nobody else offers to “help” me.
Also, this morning my father informed me that he wants to have a conversation with me today. Oh goodie. I can’t wait. Spouse tells me to “have a positive attitude”. I’m not going to say anything to that. Is it ever something you want to hear when someone asks for a conversation? I don’t think so. I’d like to have a conversation with spouse about that piece of paper he didn’t think I noticed (which he apparently took to work with him.) I’d like to have a lot of conversations today. Instead I think I should probably take deep, cleansing breaths and have another cup of coffee. (and maybe a tylenol for this whopper of a headache)
What the heck, gratitude list:
1. I’m not parenting doormats.
2. I can survive the next two months and if I can survive the next two months, I can freaking do anything.
3. I live in a beautiful place with amazing blue skies most days and mountains and trees and interesting weather.
4. I have a great job that I love that almost pays enough to buy gas.
5. I have a lot of wonderful people all over the place who care about me.
6. My parents are living and mostly healthy.
7. I can decide for myself who and what I am.
Oh, hey. The other kid just reappeared. Cool, I know where everyone else now.
Comments (35)
Awesome gratitude list.
So sorry about the cover. That’s so irritating. Does it make you feel better to know I have to get a mammogram today? And I’m right in the middle of something awesome, too.
@ordinarybutloud - i had the other end on monday. i haven’t recovered yet. but i’m sorry about yours. whoever designed woman had a funny sense of humor. and i’m aggravated. today was supposed to be my day and i’m doing a bazillion things for everyone else.
Also, for number 8, things could be worse, you could be like this: http://i.imgur.com/6i2eM.jpg
When my daughter was growing up I was a room mother several years I felt crazy most of the time
@QuantumStorm - youch
@SisterMae - i’ve done just about everything. bit by bit tossing it all to the curb. because women suck.
I’ve been irritated by the term “positive attitude” since I first heard it when I started college in 1977. It’s as meaningless as talking about “faith” without talking about what your faith is in. Reminds me of bathroom graffiti I once saw: “Reality is a crutch for people who can’t stand drugs.”
I wonder why many women seem so much more hateful than men. It’s like they’re from a different planet. Someone ought to write a book about that.
I read a book entitled “The Perks of Being a Wallflower” I see it is now a movie and I plan to see it soon. I am trying to wrap my mind around what might be perks to being a doormat. I’m not coming up with anything……
argh! i am sorry, not that that helps in any way, shape or form. thanks for reminding me why i don’t do groups (except xanga, and i can barely handle that
. do you HAVE to be in this group? because you could just give her (prima dona) what you’re really thinking. i know, only temporarily satisfying. like sex 
i know, you have a headache 
oxooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo
Sounds a you need either lots of beer/wine and an escape plan.
my name is Matt so I think that is a predisposition to be walked all over
UGH, cheerleaders, I have not met one yet that I liked. They seem to be so full of themselves, sort of like a few guys on this site. Not a good quality people!
I hope you can get that cover done on time dear.
Nice gratitude list as well.
You’re much less a quitter than I am. I’m the sort who does his part and forgets all about the matter after the hand-off. I figure that if the thing is important enough it’ll get done, and if it’s not getting done it’s not that important. The overgrown toddlers of the world, once they figure out that I won’t play along, take their silly games elsewhere.
“We need to talk” is one of my most detested phrases. Good luck with that!
Man, that is a prima donna…. I would have just reisgned and aksed her to do it herself. But I know, I am a doormat too. It sucks!!
When Romney gets elected gas prices will fall back to earth and you can add that to your gratitude list.
Oh my gosh, you are exercising a lot more control that I ever would be able to. ((((hugs))) We love you here and think your’e great!
@vexations - did we talk about that book? i read it too. great book. i can see no perks either.
give me little people any day of the week.
@Roadkill_Spatula - it’s like some women feel entitled to be served. a book like that would have sales out of this planet.
also, telling someone to have a positive attitude when they are clearly struggling with that is like telling a crying baby to stop crying. except the baby may not spew sailor talk.
@Bels_Kaylar - i did get a lot out of this group at one time. i quit a year too late. that happens, doesn’t it.
@Zoz36 - escape plan fully in place. this is the last thing i have to do.
@olwd - i should be able to get this off my plate by tomorrow.
@HappierHeathen - talk to the hand.
@angys_coco - maybe i’ll get another jar of jelly out of it. big whoop. i make jelly too, princess.
@PrisonerxOfxLove - it’ll be like getting a raise. i saw a sign that romney supports religious freedom. that’s nice.
@songoftheheart - i’ve been steamed all day. now i have to call my father. yahoo. i have enough negative energy today to power pennsylvania.
Oh I hate it when people say that. Then you just get to be all tense and worried the whole time before the conversation too.
I am very proud of you for making a gratitude list. This week is requiring a lot of that sort of thing.
@lanney - i should make another. but i have other crap i should be doing.
I’m not quite ready to make mine yet. I’m still busy feeling sorry for myself.
It’s also good that you have a good outlet to vent frustrations and also to share the joys of your life…
@locomotiv - thank you. i think i would be a total basket case without this place and these people. i mean crazier than i am. which is plenty.
I’m sure that the Prima Donna has never considered the consequence of her actions (or inactions). Hope the headache abates. Just saw the post – I’m sure Spawn is safe with you and there will be no “intervention”… Have a good weekend because tomorrow is Friday!!
@murisopsis - tomorrow will be fun. 6 hours of art with 3 little girls and my polite, helpful children helping out. a little party. and then the weekend. thanks for your kind comment.
Hmmmm…… You kept your temper throughout this? Amazing. Next time, tell that woman she can do it all by her lonesome.
@armnatmom - i so hope that happens. it would be fun to watch.
Great gratitude list. I wonder why this women’s club is worth all the aggrivation. Big hugs.
@SandraErickson - it’s not.
*hug* I admire you so very much! I’m sure I’d have handdled it a lot less graciously than you did, I really don’t get people, I end up in a lot of similar situations with school moms
@xXxlovelylollipop - i’m keeping all my nasty words inside my head. you wouldn’t believe what i’ve been calling her all day. i’m not nice.
I ain’t never gwine tuh help yooo.
I feel your pain – let me just say that without my own tale. Just know I have a similar one atm myself…
sigh
onward and upward right?
@oceanstarr - oh yes. onward and upward. without a second glance back. i am going to have so much free time next fall. yes, indeedy. hope you emerge smiling from your scene.
Tell her to do her bit, and if she doesn’t make every one know about the slacker that she is. Tell her you are bring her out and let the whole place talk about her.
I would have probably resigned by now.
@ZSA_MD - this is my last big thing. and i may very well skip the rest of the meetings. meetings make me wanna poke my eyes out anyhow and they don’t work with my schedule very well.
I think I would have told her to wipe with the cover and she is the one who is going to get in trouble for not getting it done and she better give you credit for what you have done.
The fact that you are handling things so well under stress is amazing and you totally rock.